Online dating gripe #1427

Online dating gripe #1427. My profile literally starts with 'I'm hard work'. Literally. It goes on to explain that I'm nerdcore, a feminist, and an unrepentant social justice warrior. You'd think that would be a pretty clear signal I have strong values and a brain I expect to be taken seriously. NOPE. Oh lordie. Turns out there's a bunch of men who read profiles with the same shocking inattention to detail I reserve for employment agreements and mortgage terms and conditions. Take for example the guy who tried to reassure me that my personality needn't be a barrier to being attractive, so long as I'm not 'high maintenance'. Great! And here's an idea: if you're a random stranger, don't send me an unsolicited message about how you like 'great s*x'. What's the asterisk for, you dick? Did you think it was somehow more subtle? Or maybe it was supposed to be a bit ambiguous and enigmatic. Like it could have been "Great s*x you hit, Tim Southee!". Or "Great s*x you're wearing. They really work with those sandals. Are they Argyll?". I can and must laugh at this, but to be honest, it does make me feel a bit crappy about myself. Still, I like to remind myself that when a lady has a Southland accent and an electric drill, she does not need a man for 'maintenance', any more than she needs another tool in her life.